Friendship

So, Friendship.
The dictionary says:

Friend (frend) noun.
1. A person whom one knows, likes and trusts.
2. A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; comrade.
3. One who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group.
4. An acquaintance.

The dictionary makes one small omission tho.
It doesn't speak of the years that a friendship endures,
the laughter that fills the air when friends are together,
the support, understanding and comfort a friend can offer or
the anguish you cannot escape from when a friend is dying.
The dictionary, I'm afraid, cannot begin to define the word:

"Friend." ~by unknown

whats your defination of friendship? Well, i can never define it thru' words. Frequently, it just amaze me (and it still amaze me) how friendship can silently transforms you and those special people on a jouney into, what sometimes can be a lifelong relationship?

Is it mutual admiration, common interests, the need to be a friend? Or is it just an enduring tie that bonds you together?

This blog is specially dedicated to a bunch of friends that i only befriended during last year september~ the kokkers. I dunno how the friendship started, but one thing for sure, Ohana night is the starting point of it all. we met, we sing, we believe we can fly, we yum char, we go to see meet the fockers and before i even realized it, we are friends.

Just now, after watching the Star Wars, me and the kokkers went to yum char at mamak stall. Under such a nice and easy tranquility of the night, we ate, we chat and we laugh. somehow while i saw the smiles on their face whenever someone pull a lame joke, there's a warm feeling that blossoming inside of me. thats when the word "friendship" sprung thru' my mind, thats when i really felt "friendship".

To be truth, i may considered one of the lousiest friend in the whole world, i keep forgetting important dates, i rarely send or reply sms and calls unless its really necessary, i have problems concentrating on what's others saying, i seldom show my cares and affection directly, in summary, i always dissapoints my friends.

so, for all the lousiness i am, am i still your friend?

Sometimes, it makes me wonder how can people turn something that is easy and natural into something so complicated and difficult. For me, friendship is not about how much attention you get, how many calls/sms you received, or how well the person remembers your birthday and etc. Its about enjoying each other's company, its about the value of the moments you guys spent together, as easy as that.

I used to take every little flaws in friendship very seriously, i cared every word they said, every thoughts they had, cuz' i'm scared that i am not a friend good enough for them, (but somehow, i realized that i can never be good enough for them.) At the end of days, i'm depressed, i get easily insulted by their harmless jokes and critics, i cant felt relaxed with the strung nerves and edgy emotion of struggling to be a perfect friend.

and thats when i realized friendship is nothing about being perfect for your friend, its about being yourself when you are with your friends. so, you made mistakes, you said something stupid, you do something embarassing in front of your friend, who cares? does that makes you a less perfect friend for them?

Thanx, kokkers. you guys really taught me what friendship is all about, and i really thankful that i met you guys during the final days of my college life.

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delete reply pohmui wrote on May 19, '05 for all the lousiness you are, you are still a friend to me

edit delete reply atlantisian wrote on May 24, '05 pohmui said for all the lousiness you are, you are still a friend to me thanks, your words shine up my day.

delete reply nightscamp wrote on May 21, '05 atlantisian said So, Friendship. The dictionary says: Friend (frend) noun. 1. A person whom one knows, likes and trusts. 2. A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; comrade. 3. One who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group. 4. An acquaintance. The dictionary makes one small omission tho. It doesn't speak of the years that a friendship endures, the laughter that fills the air when friends are together, the support, understanding and comfort a friend can offer or the anguish you cannot escape from when a friend is dying. The dictionary, I'm afraid, cannot begin to define the word: "Friend." ~by unknown whats your defination of friendship? Well, i can never define it thru' words. Frequently, it just amaze me (and it still amaze me) how friendship can silently transforms you and those special people on a jouney into, what sometimes can be a lifelong relationship? Is it mutual admiration, common interests, the need to be a friend? Or is it just an enduring tie that bonds you together? This blog is specially dedicated to a bunch of friends that i only befriended during last year september~ the kokkers. I dunno how the friendship started, but one thing for sure, Ohana night is the starting point of it all. we met, we sing, we believe we can fly, we yum char, we go to see meet the fockers and before i even realized it, we are friends. Just now, after watching the Star Wars, me and the kokkers went to yum char at mamak stall. Under such a nice and easy tranquility of the night, we ate, we chat and we laugh. somehow while i saw the smiles on their face whenever someone pull a lame joke, there's a warm feeling that blossoming inside of me. thats when the word "friendship" sprung thru' my mind, thats when i really felt "friendship". To be truth, i may considered one of the lousiest friend in the whole world, i keep forgetting important dates, i rarely send or reply sms and calls unless its really necessary, i have problems concentrating on what's others saying, i seldom show my cares and affection directly, in summary, i always dissapoints my friends. so, for all the lousiness i am, am i still your friend? Sometimes, it makes me wonder how can people turn something that is easy and natural into something so complicated and difficult. For me, friendship is not about how much attention you get, how many calls/sms you received, or how well the person remembers your birthday and etc. Its about enjoying each other's company, its about the value of the moments you guys spent together, as easy as that. I used to take every little flaws in friendship very seriously, i cared every word they said, every thoughts they had, cuz' i'm scared that i am not a friend good enough for them, (but somehow, i realized that i can never be good enough for them.) At the end of days, i'm depressed, i get easily insulted by their harmless jokes and critics, i cant felt relaxed with the strung nerves and edgy emotion of struggling to be a perfect friend. and thats when i realized friendship is nothing about being perfect for your friend, its about being yourself when you are with your friends. so, you made mistakes, you said something stupid, you do something embarassing in front of your friend, who cares? does that makes you a less perfect friend for them? Thanx, kokkers. you guys really taught me what friendship is all about, and i really thankful that i met you guys during the final days of my college life. Honestly agreed. For my a true friend is someone who can understand and accept you as whom you really are, flaws and all, and make you feel like a better person just because you're in their company. They are there when you really need them, and otherwise they are there too when they can be. It's not a matter of force, not to feel bad when you can't see the person. Just to understand that we all lead our separate lives but are all still in it together for always. We are blessed to have our family and friends...

delete reply craziivan wrote on May 23, '05 Wow, either u repasted the WHOLE journal or u wrote an identical blog. Thats real cool.

delete reply eugenetwj wrote on May 25, '05, edited on May 25, '05 FRIENDS FOREVER SUSAN! Goddamn. That just made me sound so 80s. Nvm that. Oh nightscamp, dont quote when you reply from the main text. It makes you looks like a rookie.

delete reply craziivan wrote on May 25, '05 Hearing u say that jst gives me this warm fuzzy feeling in my gut gene gene. Then again it cld be heartburn from breakfast.

delete reply eugenetwj wrote on May 26, '05 craziivan said Hearing u say that jst gives me this warm fuzzy feeling in my gut gene gene. Then again it cld be heartburn from breakfast. You forgot to add in "stinging" and "irritating" into your description. Anyways, whenever you experience such feelings, it gives you an assurance that your gut is still in your abdomen. Cant say the same for Tammy.

edit delete reply atlantisian wrote on May 27, '05 thanx for remind me i still have my gut. yeah yeah, reading your guys (gene and CP) reply makes me warm inside too. God, miss hanging out with ur guys....

delete reply craziivan wrote on May 27, '05 Wagaga...miss gene genge? Feel something for his guts? Take them to UK with u.

delete reply eugenetwj wrote on May 30, '05 Ya sure, you can have my appendics.