"On being Twenty-Something to Thirty-Something. They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you. You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared.
You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all. You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not.
You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
PS:Life should not be measured by the number of breaths you take BUT by the moments that take your breath away."
atlantisian: Read this i-dunno-who-wrote-this-article yesterday, give me a headache afterwards, cuz' i think i had this 'Quarter-life phobia' sort of thing as well. But then, ciest la vie... guess it's just a transformation period that i have to go through, better days are coming... (i mean after Dr wong's damned Food chemistry paper.)
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you. You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared.
You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all. You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not.
You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
PS:Life should not be measured by the number of breaths you take BUT by the moments that take your breath away."
atlantisian: Read this i-dunno-who-wrote-this-article yesterday, give me a headache afterwards, cuz' i think i had this 'Quarter-life phobia' sort of thing as well. But then, ciest la vie... guess it's just a transformation period that i have to go through, better days are coming... (i mean after Dr wong's damned Food chemistry paper.)
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 | atlantisian wrote on Jan 18, '05, edited on Jan 18, '05 ahlok2003 said  this time i not agree with you....live out the spirit as inherited in you...why should we must mold by the society??just be your selves!  that's the tough part of it, living in an influencing world without losing yourself. can't deny the fact that all of us are molded and shaped into a person to be fit in the environment and society we have today... pathetic...what you consider yourself as 'unique' or 'character' sometime is seen as 'alien' by others... 永远生活在他人眼光之下 (T.T) |
 | ahlok2003 wrote on Jan 18, '05, edited on Jan 18, '05 as in the picture...and phrases suggest.. you will be the one to be controlled or the one who control...choice is always in your hand, future also determine by one...the only person who can change everything is the creator. Other than that...most of the time you need control ourselves....and be yourselves. what people said on us, we only consider not follow...if not we will control by their thinking...or we will just draw a boundary in boundless... |
 | pohmui wrote on Jan 18, '05, edited on Jan 19, '05 had not you ever felt that sometimes, there is no one to be trusted or hold upon, no one to be there when you need them, because of the lost of confidence in them...but all you have is only you yourself? it is not a matter of being influence or not. it is the matter of belongingness... where u feel that you do not belong to either the society or the world.. it is the feeling of loneliness when there is no one there...no one to be trusted... the feeling of insecure because everyone seems to be selfish and no longer be those you trusted... it is the feeling of emptiness... well, so long that i can describe... |
| atlantisian wrote on Jan 18, '05, edited on Jan 18, '05 pohmui said had not you ever felt that sometimes, there is no one to be trusted or hold upon, no one to be there when you need them, because of the lost of confidence in them...but all you have is only you yourself?it is not a matter of being influence or not. it is the matter of belongingness... where u feel that you do not belong to either the society or the world.. it is the feeling of loneliness when there is no one there...no one to be trusted... the feeling of insecure because everyone seems to be selfish and no longer be those you trusted... it is the feeling of emptiness... well, so long that i can describe... tammy, well, sometime gals are a lil' bit more sensual and sensitive compare to guys (no offense,k?) well, sometime i also had that kind of feeling, the sense of emptiness, being hypocrate... But then, what i must say is we had to accept that this is the world that we are living in now, happy or not you still have to go on with life, so,we might as well learn to live to the fullest. The truth of life, about belonginess, purpose of life... will only be crystal clear as you walk down this road of life... so, don't give up, i'm sure you'll find your inner strength and self identity one day... |
| pohmui wrote on Jan 19, '05 its ok.. no offense. sometimes the feeling do run through my mind but.. what i will do is to live life the happiest i can. no point being sad everytime.. life is just too short to be sad for long. i cant stop being sensual or sensitive sometimes, but, what to do.. be happy then.. |
| atlantisian wrote on Jan 19, '05 vrdacosta said In the text we can read: ". ...You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. ...".And about you, what would you say!... Do you feel insecure? insecurity... i am... |
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