Man needs woman and woman needs man

Am reading a blog of my ex-school mate. I was never close to her, the kind of hi and bye friends, but during my time, she was one of those girl who really stand out in the crowd. When my world was still revolved around piles of reference books 24-7, she already knew how to dress herself well and look attractive in front of others.

In one of the posts in her blog, she described that man and woman relationship was established based on one absolute truth: Man needs woman and woman needs man. Although world changed, people changed, political constitution changed, ideology changed... after 10,000 years since family constitution were first introduced, man and woman are still together.

The fact that man needs woman and woman needs man (for whatever reason) was never change.

However, if one day woman suddenly realized that she can be pretty much live on her own, self sufficient, and was sick and tired of the 'you-dont-understand-me' constant arguments with her man... in summary, she thinks that she don't need him anymore (and vice versa). Now, here come the question: will man and woman still be together after the foundation of their relationship, which is 'the need factor' is not there anymore?

I dont know if you agree with me or not, the fact is i can see its all coming, soon. The world are slowly shifted from its cardinal foundation which based on communion/community manifesto into something very individualistic. In fact, its the evolution of human being itself which usher the age of individualism. This new age cherishes individual interest, rights, achievements rather than couple, family and even society combined benefits.

One of the most evident proof is that the rate of marriage has slumped to its lowest level. In fact i was reading one of the statistic reports and it was commented that the people are not surprised by the figure as its a change of 'lifestyle thing'. Its mind boggling to know that one of the most unblemished and perfect institution created by God Himself-reunion of man and wife will soon be seen as outdated and the dinasour of the future age. Female and male identity had reached such a state of confusion and fuzziness, as women arised with societal authority, power and earning capabilities. Whereas man appears to be more metrosexual inclined, of which sweating and laboring for family is no longer appealing and perceived as honouroble.

Instead of having a relationship of intense commitment and love, with marriage being the ultimate goal of courtship, people will opt for relationship of easy come easy go, with no string attached. Once the good feeling subsides, they will parted like friends, with no hard feelings. When this new sexual codes and patterns of social life being adopted, it will lead to total liberation of the individualist.

Don't get me wrong, this post is not about fretting over the evolution of the man-woman relationship pattern which we have no control over it, but sadly said, we are all taking a part in it. The motivation of writing this post is simply because i am curious about my ex college friend who is asking why on earth man and woman are still together when the needs are no longer there. Is it true the fact that those capable/beautiful women (well, in this case she is) are those of the first to realize that they are better off without man?

If thats the case, i can never be qualified to be part of such transition as i dont have the pre-requisites assets ;) . And moreover, i think i still have alot of unmeet needs which can only be satisfied through a life long and committed love relationship. Which includes wearing an apron cooking my hubby's favourite food or kissing him goodbye when he leaves for work in the morning. Ok, i admit that i'm a very much family woman in heart (surprise?).

Well, it wasnt that hard to admit that we, women do need our opposite, as much as the men need us right? Check out what others says here. Anyway, here is a song for all those who dare to admit, Anna Gilbert's "Nobody told you"