Sense and sensibility

Many philosopher believe that constitution is not an identity, that very same matter can made up 2 or more concrete object of different kinds at the same time, i'm not referring to Christianity's Trinity or political constitution here (if that's what in your mind), i'm talking about the most complex and sophisticated creature on earth-women.

Many said that there is a beast in every man, but we tend to forget that sometimes women are equally scary. Man can be fearless, but when it comes to their Kryptonite-woman, they are literally armless. Basically, i would like to think that woman is constitutes of two personalities -Ms. Elinor (Sense) and Ms. Marianne (Sensibility), trapped inside the same body. You can imagine something like Dr Jekyll and Mrs. Hyde, except that both are of the same sex. Anyway you get my point.

Many perceived that woman are emotional creatures, full with ranging hormones, has a soft spot for man who sweet talks, always think with her heart and not her brain. In fact, when Adam saw Eve for the first time, he said "She shall be called "Ishsha" (a Hebrew word for Women) as she was taken out of "Ish" (man)." Translation from Hebrew for Ishsha is softness/receptivity, while Ish means Strength/initiation.

This means, 'relationality' is the role of women, whereby connecting and being receptive to senses (sensibility) was coded in women's genetic. In nature, women are more attuned to what happen in their heart (than their brain); in another words, women are born to be Ms. Marianne.

Personally, i think its a stereotype, i resent it.

History of microevolution shows that human is capable of adapting to the fast rate of environmental change for greater survivorship, which means genotype is not the sole factor that give rise to the phenotypic manifestation of women.

Easy formula from Genetic chapter 1:

Phenotype= Genotype+Environment

One of the most profound emerging phenomenon of this developing world (environnment) is that women is attainning societal power, authority, earning capabilities which previously seem as being preserve of men. The consequence is that this give rise to women of a different breed, Ms. Elinor. Men see them as bossy, autocratics who had opted out of their domestic goddess role.

Again, i think its a stereotype, i resent it.

I believe every woman has both sense and sensibility in them. It will be a total fiasco if the women of this age have their Elinor seperated from Marrianne. And frankly speaking, i dont see a problem in that, i have female friends who are successful managing directors and business women, but happily settled with their love ones who bring back less cash compare to themselves.

The question is how did they strike the balance of the two?

You can argue the fact that because in term of materials and cents wise, these ladies are self sufficient therefore they dont really bother too much whether the other half's earnings are on par or exceeding theirs. However, does the woman of this age has totally lost the feminine side of them and prioritize externals/qualification of man more than what their heart feels?

Lets put on a scenario to illustrate my point, women, if there are two guys came and approached you at the same time, one with a highly paid executive job, not heart-achingly handsome but is stable and able to fill up the deep insecurity ravine in your heart, someone like John Cusack maybe. While the other one is a pretty laidback chap with less cash in the pocket, but he can make you go all mushy inside by writing and singing a love song to you like Kris Allen, or John Mayer, or Jason Mraz, or all in one.

John Cusack, and the Kris-John-Jason combi (i know my photoshop skill is bad)

Who would you choose?

The fact is the answer may be vary pretty drastically from person to person. Given a choice, doesnt matter is Mr. A or B, I'll go for the guy who, one day or forty years from now, can say, "You remember that time, it wasnt funny back then."

and then we both laugh together.

Neither a love song nor money can buy moments like that. Women needs a man whom they can laugh together and sharing this life together, let it be full of thorns or bed of roses.

I probably don't have a definite answer on how to balance the two, but my point is, there is a very little difference between the women and men in terms of feelings we are going through. We have virtually the same needs and pains (although the way of dealing is different). Man, if you were given the same question on whether you will choose Ms. Elinor or Ms. Marianne, probably the answer that came out will be the same as what the women would give.

So figure it out your own.

Ok, thats sound very philosophical, you heard my answer yet you dont.