Love lesson 102: Skin deep

I was reading "Switch Girl" (a manga) recently and i find the story was kinda amusing.

Its about the story of this girl who is the perfect glamor girl when she is outside in the public, perfect eye liner, wavy hair, great outfit... the type of girl who makes the guys turn their heads to stare, not once but twice.

However, beauty is only skin deep. In reality, she is also the most unkempt, sloppy, loathsome, unsightly girl when she is at home. Hideous baggy and washout underwear, ugly pajamas, gherkins (and any other smelly things) obsession etc., get the picture?

Well, of course this sort of thing doesn't happened so dramatically in real life, however we cant deny the fact that nowadays people tends to hide their true self underneath all sort of artificial pretentious, such as makeup, grand certificates, big cars, even pleasant or lovable characters.

Its understandable why some people choose to be in that way, come on, who doesnt want others to look at us with admiring (or even with a hint of jealousy lol) eyes? Its does feel good when you know you have strike the first impression well and that other people thought that you are SOMEthing.

I remember the first year of our coupling life, Peter was the perfect man alive on the planet, the only foul word he said was something like "basket" (which was not even close to profanity), and today he swears like a bull and everytime he press the hon while driving, i scare that he might break a hole through my sterring wheel. Well, am no good either, he will list up a whole list of why Susan now is not the Susan before if you asked him.

Am i troubled by the fact that we are all artificial in many ways? the answer is no, as long as it doesnt become the barrier to know who our love ones truly are.

I have to agree, beauty and flawlessness are misleading at times. It doesn't matter if you are a female or a male, to harbor the wish of continue to see our love one to be beautiful at all times in a way is a selfish act. It is easy to be distracted by appearances as we are being fooled into thinking he/she is better only at skin deep level, and in missing something even better than what physically excites us.

Vanity is deceitful, because visuals distract us from what truly matters. Do we really want someone to love us for the pretentious that we wear skin deep?

For me, love involves a process which started with romance (you are the most beautiful girl on earth), dis-illusion (dont throw your used mask here! can you make up faster or not!), rediscovering (Thanks for being so generous with my mom), and finally the true joy (yes, i want to wake up to know you will lying by my side everyday).