Friday, March 26, 2010

1 year before getting hitched

ok, further to my previous post.

* Susan, spill the bean! Spill it out!!! *

In case you are curious why am i suddenly talked about the love lesson and etc. Yes, Dorcas you are right. I am attending a Catholic Marriage Preparation Course (CMPC) now. Am i really that predictable?? Anyway, its a two hours a week lesson, pages of homework and many many couple and self discovery exercise.

Frankly, i don't have high hopes to learn something new about love from the classroom lesson, being in love for 5 years has taught me enough. It surprised me that there are couples who really caught off guard by the first lesson, (there are 8 of us, can you imagine that, everyone is eager to get married!!). The group was pretty diverse with some couples from arranged marriage and some are lovebird since high school. Most of us were pretty relaxed but there were awkward moments as some couple seems to be struggled to accept the 'new found' character of their other half.

For me, it was really too 'Classroom' if you know what i mean. Before starting the session, we were advised to give our undivided attention to each other so that we can gain insight into ourselves as individuals and as a couple, of course at the end of the day the objective was to deepen our readiness for married life. It was pretty odd that we were 'instructed' to sit one up (on the chair) and one down (on the floor) as a pair and being a gentlemen Peter had let me sit on the chair. However, the moment i sat down, my mind start to go into auto analysis mode, is this part of the psycology test to see whether who is more submissive? so you can imagine how stiff i am throughout the session.

When it comes to couple exercise (you know, guy and girl fills up his/her own personalities questionairs first, followed by partner's, and then compare the notes with each other), Peter and I listened to each other with open hearts and manage to finish up the session maybe in .... 5 mins? and talked nonsense for the next 25 mins. Its not that we are not serious about it but i think i am more comfortable to talk in depth with him when its not so structured and protocol based. Despite of trying hard to be serious and cool, we still managed to crack jokes in between. Honestly, this is nothing compare to our 'constructive debates' session k.

Overall it was ok, the truth is attending the course was a pre requisite for having wedding in catholic church. Hence it wont really change too much the way we treat (or 'love') each other unless both of us see the need. For me, others experience can never be the perfect mold to ensure successful couple ship, nevertherless if we manage to learn something new, it will be definitely an added bonus.

Ok, here comes the final bean which i've yet to spill out. i have said "yes, i will" (anyway that will be another story all together which i will write next time) and therefore i can no more calling myself single from now on, but engaged. yeah, yeah you heard me right.



So this will be our final year of being single before we get hitched, wish us good luck!

10 comments:

Dorcas said...

haha, congratulation lor!!
How come you choose to get married in a catholic church?? beware of very long "mass" style wedding !! but they have pretty church.
so when is the big date? will i be expecting something in the mail? hehe

ANGEL_onLINE said...

eh,i'm invited right?i'll self-invite myself. lol. :)

congrats susan! so happy for u :)

Canette Hitto said...

hehe, congratulation!!^^

manglish said...

waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa congrats congrats i think u will make a pretty wife in the church cant wait to see ur wedding pics hahahahah y am i so excited for har?

JeSS said...

congratulation su!

can't wait to see you in the pretty white gown.

Atlantisian said...

@Dorcas: Peter is a catholic, so that explained all i guess. No tentative date as yet, but hoping to be March 2011. You are invited anyway, so you can start to plan for your coming back home trip now!! ;)

Angie: Of course you are invited, can i self invite for your big day as well? hahaha..

Jess, Bowl: Guys you are all invited. I do need to reduce some lipid before i can think about the white dress though. Bowl, need to talk to you sometimes soon about photography services k.

Manglish: Well if you happen to be in KL during that dunno-when-is-that time, please do come to the wedding. well, maybe you are excited because you would want to walk down the isle with someone one day as well?? hehehe...

Canette Hitto said...

sure, no prob^^

Canette Hitto said...

sue, check out this wedding studio^^

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chloe-kohyee said...

finally...been holding it in my throat for such a long time...can i announce to LCCDC?

heheh...pls pls pls get married somewhere near cny next year...i cant afford to fly back twice a year...please pretty....:D

atlantisian said...

Dear Kohyee, yeah, you can break teh news now. Hahahaha.. sorry havent reply your email, will soon though. We hope to be in early March, not confirmed though. can you stay for 1 month long arr..hehehe.