Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Wedding is way overated

Time for a little complaining.

Along the process of wedding preparation, one thing which I'm constantly frustrated about is the people's general perception towards wedding.

For simplicity, i would called the so called generally stereotyped weddings as celebrity wedding, while mine which is less extravagant and simple as my humble wedding. Apparently, not all, but some who doubted peter and my decision for a humble wedding. For example, during the course of wedding preparation, we were being bombarded endlessly by questions such as "are you serious of not serving any alcohol?", "what about speech?""why there is no reception dinner/tea ceremony/ chip san leong?", "you got no money is it?" etc.

Let me emphasize this before i continue, this is purely my PERSONAL opinion, so it does not conform to the general opinion of how wedding should be. And i am relief that the other person who is integral in this wedding is 100% in tune with me. PERSONALLY, i believe that wedding is the occasion where the couple come together as one, and it is a special moment for the couple to celebrate and sharing their joy with their love ones. On the other hand, wedding frills and favors are secondary, am not saying that its not necessary, but i would say that its not that important compare to the focus of the wedding, which is the couple themselves. The frills follows the ceremony for obvious reasons, as it contributes to the entire ambiance and good feelings of the wedding. However, with or without the frills, extravagant or not, all the wedding are of the same purpose and it should brings equal sheer happiness to the couple as well as the witness who shared the happiness of the couple.

Most of us, have certain level of "wedding indoctrination" buried deep within, i.e. designer dress, expensive wines, wedding banquets etc. Frankly, i'm the lone ranger here, fighting the Goliath celebrity wedding 'system' which was deep rooted in any culture or society. I blame it to media influence OR ..... its sheer vanity.

Well, all i can say is that its unavoidable that there are expectations from many, however in the end of the day its up to me and Peter to keep it in perspective.

I guess you got the point now, other wise dont blame me if i turn into bridezilla k.


6 comments:

Nana said...

Haha.. Pretty awesome!
COMPLAIN all you want it's good for the soul. or so i've heard! LOL..

Will stop asking u about "jip san leong" hehe..

Dorcas said...

kudos my friend!
BUT, a big but, make sure all your colours combo is right! HAHAHHAHA!!!

Atlantisian said...

nana,

hahaha.. you are the least of those persistent people k. No worries. =)

Dorcas,

noted mdm! i am sticking to my champagne and white for everything, can never go wrong with that, plus i got troops of bridesmaids to help me with the design now, hehe..

Xav_Kim said...

Su: Totally agree with you. Marriage is between u & him. Just tell all these busybody fXXX off!!!
Looking fwd ur Big Day...

JeSS said...

susan, just want to check with you. do u know how far is the distance between muken church and your place. we are planning to attend two wedding ceremony in the same morning.

Atlantisian said...

Jess: if you got car, its around half an hour of drive. From Genting Klang to somewhere near KL sentral. i'll send the map to you separately. Can you send email add of yours, nahee, ivy, adrian and anyone else who will be coming to susanong83@gmail.com. I will communicate to you all through email.