An accident

My fat Myvi's back bumper was banged yesterday morning.

It was nearly 8am, the road was still packed jam, and the traffic was bumper to bumper. However, that is very much my daily routine and frankly speaking, patience can be nurtured. So i wasnt particularly in bad mood or anything. Driving at the turtle speed, i'm half distracted by John Mayer's deep voice interweaved with rhythm of his bluesy guitar, playing softly from the radio.

And suddenly this car came and bang me from behind. I only managed to hear a loud bang and the next thing i know was my body flung towards the steering by the momentum. My instant reflex was "Not again!" (This is not the first time my car was banged by someone). The fact is everyone was driving slow, like 10km/hr maybe, so how can she speed from behind and banged into my car when there is not even a meter of space between our cars. Unless, she press on the accelerator accidentally and thought it was the break. No joking, i did that quite a few times my self.

Anyway, i'm thankful that no one was injured apart from my car.

I parked my car at the side of the road and the young office lady (early 20s maybe) came down from her car as well. When she looked at my car, she didnt even apologized but said this instead "oh, the bumper detached at one side only, you can re attached it back one." I am totally speechless, at her naiveness. I cant even find the right word to curse and if you allow me to describe this poetically, the words have left me, totally.

I told her to look at the side of my back tyer, of which the liner (the rubber piece between the tyre and the car body) was broken, and the seriously dented bumper, which is impossible to re attach back unless you detach the whole bumper and reattach by 'knocking and heat re-shaping' (dont asked me why i know this, like i said, its not my first time). Without obstructing the traffic further more than it was, i took her details down and tell her i will send the car to the workshop to see the damage and quote her accordingly.

When i reached the office, i quickly settled all the urgent works and took a half day leave. I sent my car to Perodua Service Centre to access the damage, of which the outcome was my bumper need to be knocked and some pins were broken, the reverse sensors had gone and the liner needs to be replaced. The total damage was around RM180.00. This is excluding the re-spray of the scratched part cuz i still can tolerate with the minor aesthetic flaw.

Thats when i call the lady's number to inform her that i will go ahead to pay it first and get it fix. The line went to the voice mail after ringing for ages. I call back, and this time the phone was shut down. Again, for the second time of the day, I'm speechless. Am not sure she is purposely avoiding my call or not but i'm getting really upset over the whole thing now.

Whether she is paying or not i need to get the car fixed so i went ahead. I sms her asking her to call back if she received my sms. still no calls returned.

It was not until nearly 3pm an unknown number called, i picked up the phone and there is this guy asking me am i the person whose car was knocked this morning. I said yes and went ahead to explain to him the damages. I didnt vent the frustration onto him and he sincerely apologizesd to me as well. So thats the whole story, am still waiting for him to wire the money to me, and until now, the lady never call me, not even once.

Just want to give my two cents here.

Why do we need another person (bf or brother or friend) to apologise for what we've done wrong? Regardless of how minor the lady may think the whole incident was, Its not that hard to just say a sincere sorry for causing so much of trouble to the other person isnt it? Throughout the entire interaction, i was never rude or anything, so its impossible that i scared her off.

Yes, of course bf can stood up for their girlfriend, there is nothing wrong about it. Carrying an XX chromosomes myself, i will be touched if my bf say sorry on behalf for me for thing which i've done wrong to others. However, take away the i'm-so-touched part, ladies, arent we are big enough to admit our own mistake? are we taking our love ones for granted as its simply convenient to let the man stood up for us everytime?

Just think about it.